I hate how Cosmo has articles like "What kind of cleavage/hair/makeup/panties etc. guys like most!" As if men should be the main motivation for our outward appearance. As a matter of fact a lot of things in Cosmo relates to how to please men in some form or another. I'm by no means a bra burning feminist. I believe in having equal rights, I believe that women have some advantages over men and men have some advantages over women, but in the end we're equal. However, I do believe that magazines like Cosmo oppress women more in a way. And I do actually like Cosmo. I started reading my mom's Cosmo mags when I was no older than 9 years old. But as I grow older, I see how dumb it can make women if you're not sharp enough to read between the lines.

Sure there are some trends/hairstyles/whatever that some men hate but if you're attractive as a whole (including your heart and personality), it doesn't matter wtf you wear and guys don't notice most things like that anyway. If you're showing cleavage, he doesn't care if it's via pushup bra, keyhole dress, sweetheart neckline, he just likes that he sees boobs. Period. And as a friend once told me, a guy doesn't know what he likes until he has it. Generally speaking, men are very simple. Either you're attractive or unattractive. Either they like you or they don't like you. They don't really break down the little details as to why you're unattractive such as whether your ponytail is high, medium, or low (yes, that is a REAL article. Medium ponytails were the most attractive, then low, then high -__-) Not to mention, every guy is different.

When some girls take these articles to heart, it can lead to insecurity and even turning into one of those psycho clingy girls who have no sense of self because they try so hard to be someone's imagined idea of "attractive".

I also started reading my older brother's issues of Maxim when I was a kid and it's still my favorite men's magazine today. But I noticed the stark contrast between the subject matter of women/teen girl magazine's and men's magazines. Other than the usual sex tips, men's magazines don't really revolve around pleasing women. It's all about guy stuff and hot chicks.

This was a spur of the moment blog that I literally wrote in 10 minutes so my ideas may be a little muffled but basically I'm saying that the reading material and even t.v. shows aimed toward women and girls are in fact making us insecure, weak, pathetic, psychotic to an extent, jealous (relates to insecurity), catty, annoying, shallow, vain and quite frankly, moronic. But this is nothing new. We've been conditioned since we were little girls. Don't even get me started on Disney movies.

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Don't think about all those things you fear. Just be glad to be here.

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Win Through Your Actions, Never Through Argument

Is it cruel or kind not to speak my mind and lie to you rather than hurt you?

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Don't love the heart that hurts you and don't hurt the heart that loves you.

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Be what YOU think is cool.

My generation was weaned on subliminal advertising, stupid television, "teen" movies, insipid teen-series literature, MTV, Sidekicks, fast food, "reality" TV, glossy ads, diet aids, plastic surgery, a pop culture wherein the hyper-cool, blank-eyed supermodel is a hero. This is the intellectual and emotional equivalent of eating nothing but candy bars- you get malnourished and tired. We grow up in a world in which the surface of the thing is infinitely more important than its substance- and where the surface of the thing has to be "perfect", urbane, sophisticated, blasé.